About a year and a half ago I hit my lowest point. I was dealing with the emotions of a breakup in an unhealthy way. Instead of solving my problems I chose alcohol and drugs to numb my pain. I liked to pretend that it was a normal coping mechanism but deep down I knew it wasn’t.
I was taking a prescription drug as a front to help me stay focused and get through my Master’s program. But in reality I was using it to party with alcohol. One evening I experienced my usual feeling of loneliness & sadness after my comedown but with a different thought. I wondered if being genuinely happy without drugs would be a reality of mine again. That’s when I knew I had to stop.
I remember googling ways to get out of the negative cycle I was in. One of the first things that popped up was a TED talk. It was a woman who had dreams for herself and used meditation and visualization to make those dreams her reality. Watching that video was my starting point. I got myself into therapy, started cutting out drugs, and made small positive changes.
If you’re in a low place right now and are ready for some serious change, implement these 5 steps to start…
- Trust God. When I hit rock bottom I blamed God. I didn’t understand why I was single and in so much pain but eventually came to realize I was doing it to myself. Instead of turning to God who could help me solve my problems, I ran away and tried to face them on my own with unhealthy behaviors. That feeling I had that made me realize my unhealthy behaviors were harming me, was God. When I finally surrendered and let go of the negative, my life began to flourish with abundance and love in every aspect.
- Clear things out. Your stuff, pictures, etc., carry energy with them. Go through your items and de-clutter your space. In your room, car, bathroom. Make a fresh start by clearing out anything you don’t need or haven’t used over the last 6 months. If you’re going through a break up this means getting rid of old pictures, letters, and clothes. Essentially anything that will remind you of that person!
- Make meditation a daily habit. YouTube is my go to for meditations. You can look up meditation based on time (i.e. short meditation, meditation for sleep) or the feeling (i.e. positive, gratitude, clarity, peace) you want to achieve. Meditation reminds me to be present and grateful for the little things.
- Go to therapy. If you have the opportunity to speak with a therapist, I highly recommend this. A professional knows exactly how to help you and support you through your problems. I always tell people that it’s important to find a therapist that you click with, so before going to your first session chat with the therapist over the phone to get a feel for who they are and the techniques they plan on using to help you (i.e. meditation, worksheets, cognitive behavioral therapy).
- Read personal development. I’m obsessed with personal development. It’s transformed my frame of mind and given me the confidence I need to believe in my dreams and myself. If you’re not into reading, download the app Audible. Some of my favorite reads are “You are a Bad Ass” by Jen Sincero, “UnF**k Yourself” by Gary Bishop, “Girl, Wash Your Face” by Rachel Hollis, and “I am that Girl” by Alexi Jones.
It took me some time to reach the place I stand right now but if you want to change your life you absolutely CAN. Once you start to take action and use the steps I mentioned above (especially faith in God, meditation, and personal development as part of your daily routine), you can change your mind and your life.